Thursday, September 10, 2009
Revelations
I wasn't sober.
I was with friends, celebrating a final night before one of us left for a time.
And I saw her. A woman I knew 14 years ago. She looked the same.
In my mind, I saw the same person I knew 14 years ago. In my drunken haze, it was my memories that flooded forward. I remembered what I missed.
Two days later I met her for coffee - she wasn't what I remembered or, frankly, all that interesting.
It is amazing what perspective does to one's mind.
I, literally, had to drink her interesting- and it wasn't even that I pretended that she was- it was that my memory of her made her interesting. It was a complete fabrication based on what I thought my memory was.
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
Time
We started by wasting it talking about nothing, and enjoying one another's company.
And then we saw that we were almost out of time.
Usually things don't stop because of a clock. Usually things stop because they end naturally. A fight. A frolick. A death.
Not because we ran out of time.
Friday, January 30, 2009
Friday, January 30th
Not about you, but about life in general.
It seems that as I age, and I do it at an alarmingly slow rate, I still forget all the things that have made me so happy I cried. With or without a whisper, I can the memories from time gone by.
I miss singing down the street - and acting like no one cares. I miss dancing to Journey in bars, often on speakers. I miss the quiet moments before the jubilation. Of what, I have no idea.
I can't recapture my youth. I tried, with a butterfly net.
I wish I knew how to make each second perfect - making it always enjoyable, instead of using one minute to pay for the next.
People are drawn to me because I entertain them. I crave it you know- the attention - the laughs. That makes me shallow in a very bizarre way. But I think it is eerily genuine. It often makes me lonely though - because I crave attention from so many places. It is a tacky jerry mcguire syndrome. The crowd will always call for more.
I think I have settled - am I going to be happy by staying here and being the person I am?
I admire those who have the courage and the strength to seize what they want - and even if it isn't youth you are seizing, it is most certainly life.
Deep down, I really wish that I could make a difference. I don't know what that means, but I know it isn't doing what I am doing now. I might actually impede progress.
My ego has driven me to succeed and that success has always been measured compared to the other things people have. Not what they have done, persae, because so few of the people I know have actually done anything for society on the whole. It is a very high bar and so many people define it differently.
I wish I could understand what it meant to be truly happy - it has to be more than waking up and plodding along through life.
I try to exude happiness, but it is a masquerade.
Friday, January 9, 2009
This isn't exactly fiction - but it deserves to be on this side
I told myself it was for charity. It was too wet for it to be any fun.
As I listened to the rumbling thunder and watched the lightning crackle nearby, I was reminded of a time a short while ago when I was helping out with some junior golfers. Not the most underprivileged group, I will admit, but deserving nevertheless.
The day was just like every other day, except that the south west horizon had a razor sharp black cloud line stretched across it as far as the eye could see. There was a handful of juniors ready to play in their first tournament of the year, and I was less than enthused about the prospect of herding them for the next few hours. Despite my new found passion for volunteerism, there were limits to what I was willing to do.
As the younglings puttered about, waiting for their call to tee-off, the sky finally opened up to release its full fury. The parents who were (ultimately) in charge of the event, huddled to confer as to what was going to happen. The kids, feeling the anticipation of "god, we don't have to be here anymore" started to collect their things and say so long. Except for one little girl who was, curiously, with three adults, all of whom seemed to be on edge. Usually, it only takes one parent to attend these social tournaments, but what do I know.
One of them caught my eye, hurried over to me, and asked "Is the tournament still on?"
I wasn't exactly sure what to say other than "I would be very surprised if it happened - it is brutal outside."
She didn't seem to hear me, or care to hear me, and quietly, she suggested to me that the tournament had to happen. Confused, and jaded by what I initially perceived as over-competitive parenting, I was about to ask "why?" when a second adult came over to inquire as to the status of the tournament. Before she began to speak, I could hear the gathering of the "official" parents dispersing, and they were headed my way.
"This tournament can't be cancelled," the second adult said, "My daughter has to play." I am not sure I have ever heard an adult talk that sternly to me in my life. No teacher, no principal and not my parents who were adults, teachers and (in my father's case) principals.
Before I got a chance to respond, the second adult pulled me aside and explained the situation to me. I looked over my shoulder, noticing that a parent from the organizing committee was patiently waiting to speak to me, presumably about rescheduling, or cancelling, the event.
After the explanation, completely dumbstruck, I pulled the organizing committee aside. I discretely detailed what I was told to them, and announced, most definitely, that the tournament would be going forward. I am not sure who put me in charge, but I was acting like it, so why wouldn't they listen? There was no opposition from the parents, but it would be entirely voluntary. No child would be forced to play in the event. I made the announcement, and informed the kids that in Scotland, this was considered a sunny day.
As it turns out, there was only one participant. A nine year old girl. I put on my rain gear, and I played along side her. In possibly the worst rainstorm outside of monsoon season. The rain was coming down sideways it was blowing so hard.
We played all nine holes, and when she sunk the final putt, she smiled with a level of satisfaction and relief that I am not quite sure I have ever seen before or since.Her mother, and Aunt and Uncle, were waiting for us on the 9th green. They cheered and then we had a "champions" dinner of hot dogs and soda. I presented her with the trophy, and to this day, her name adorns a plaque at the club.
The little girl's father died that morning, and his dying wish was that she played in the tournament. Not only did she play, she won.
Thursday, August 30, 2007
The Sorrow of Legends - Chapter Six
And getting it back really hurt. A lot. Asshole.
Monday, August 27, 2007
The Passion of People - Addiction
By the time he left, he was in a trance-like state – walking through the densely packed hall with no mission in mind.
When he became aware of his surroundings, he was nestled under the awning of his apartment building, which faced out into the harbour, watching the rain come down. He had been out with friends, and then, once they left, he stayed out alone. The music made it seem like he was with others- because he couldn’t talk to anyone. He drank until his state became transfixed on the light above the floor.
He was an addict. He wasn’t sure what he was addicted to, but it seemed that there was nothing that he could do in moderation. He would spend hundreds in a single sitting at the Casino. He would smoke cigarettes one after another. He would drink until he passed out. It was truly odd, he never smoked or gambled unless he was drinking, and when he was sober he was a perfect gentleman. His drinking, though totally under control day-by-day, exposed his other vices, if not create them, as he drank. For every drink he took he became more of a showman, more of a card player, more of a hustler. Alcohol was a muse, of sorts.
He limped out onto the docks in search of a matchbook he saw earlier in the day, because though he had instructed his cab driver to stop at the local 24 hour store for cigarettes, he did not have the presence of mind to get a lighter or a matchbook. The first cigarette was attached to his lip by dried saliva, but was soaked through, making it useless to anyone who would ever want to light it even if he found a spark. He cast it aside, and bundled the rest of the twenty-pack into a warm and dry spot in his coat to protect them from the driving wind and the torrential shower. He was oblivious to everything but his addictions.
He lost his balance twice while he was searching for the matchbook, and but for the staggered steps off the main deck, he would have been cast into the ocean. The last time he woke up with a mouthful of weeds and a small crab scuttling about his head. It was not his best evening, but he was oblivious to the fact that he had been lucky to survive it. If he had hit his head against any solid rock or part of the pier, he would have drowned for sure.
He had not had a cigarette for months leading up to tonight. He had gone out with friends for a drink and he got to that threshold. The threshold that most alcoholics have, but are never allowed to attain because of their credo. They swear that each day they won’t have a drink that day. While one drink will never push a man back off the wagon, the credo even prevents that from ever happening because if they don’t have one drink, they can’t have ten. He didn’t go to meetings. He didn’t think he had a problem because his life was working out fine.
He just drank bad. There is no other way of describing it. He drank until he was on the verge of losing consciousness, and then he would continue until he was an unintelligible derelict. As he drank, he would become more forceful, more agitated, more confrontation, more amorous- his various senses and desires would be simultaneously exaggerated or muted, depending on which one. He has lost more friends then he could count because he doesn’t know how to control himself. He can share a laugh, but when the laughter ends, he doesn’t always know why. Often, it was something he said or did that put an abrupt end to the party. The few friends he kept teeter-totter back and forth about the causes and rationales behind his behaviour. Several have attempted interventions- only to have their pleas fall on deaf ears. It got to the point where he just kept his friends apart so that he could drink every night- each time with a different group that wouldn’t judge him for specific instances- unbeknownst to them that the sum of their parts were blotting out all light.
He walked to the end of the pier and retraced his afternoon steps carefully. Nothing. Either the wind had knocked the book of matches off the dock and into the sea, or they were never there in the first place.
A feigned desperation set in as he returned to the covered entrance to his apartment. He sat there, endlessly waiting for the right passer-by to ask for a light. Finally, after what seemed like seconds, but was in reality over an hour, a young man on his way to the morning shift obliged him with a light. He sucked on the filter, and drew the smoke into his mouth, and down to his lungs before he exhaled the lot up into the settling fog. The rain had finally stopped He nodded his thanks to the boy who gave him the flame, and paced mechanically up and down the walk in front of his apartment building, thinking about what he would have to do the next day.
It was at that point that a nagging element of sobriety pulled him back into reality and his mind started to tick back into control. David put out the cigarette, shook his head rapidly to wake himself out of the groggy state he was in, and pulled himself into the elevator. His mind was now working faster than his body and he was ordering it to get out of the elevator well before it arrived at his floor. It was like an old buggy driver who knew exactly how his machine would perform, as David’s body leaned out the elevator doors just as the doors slid open, a full breath or two after he had asked it to move. In its current state, his body was like a sluggish computer running a program it did not have enough power to run properly. He fumbled for his keys well up the hallway from his apartment, and as he reached the door, he slid the key into the lock and turned it. He then realized that he had just locked the door, rather than open it. He cranked the lock back, and pushed his way through the door, and flat out onto the couch. Here he could crash for the few hours of the regenerative sleep his body needed and get up and resume his life like nothing had happened the night before.
How many more times could he put his body through this, he wondered to himself, before it caught up with him and ruined what was left of his life? He then made the same oath he made countless times before to control his excesses, and not to drink more then three drinks. Why stop altogether? When I’m so obviously still in control?
Friday, August 24, 2007
The Sorrow of Legends - Chapter Five
I have been trapped inside of it since I was a boy.
I knew what people wanted before they would say. I knew their hopes and dreams. I knew what would make them happy.
Eventually, I learned to help them through it- out of a sense of self-preservation.
Then I learned I could control them.
I robbed people of their experiences because I believed that it was right. I healed them, without knowing that because of me, it would always hurt like the first time. I kept people from the pain that made them stronger. There was nothing anyone could do to stop me.
Until I slept and the terror would take over again. It was fitting that I would bend people to my will during the day, and have their subconscious minds attack me at night. Once, in defending myself from the carnage, I killed a woman I knew. Was it really self defence? Or was I provoking her by stealing glances into her soul?
Today, I have grown so strong that by concentrating I could end the life of a tyrant on the other side of the globe. I could end wars with my thoughts. I could end international disputes. I could affect the outcome of every election. I could become the king of all men. And my rule would be no less tyrannical than any other democracy- they would still believe they had choice. But I can't do it. Humanity has to make their own mistakes- and they can't live free under a different tyrant. In many ways, I am a god.
From time to time I will use my power to stop the most heinous of acts. It is a constant struggle to know where the bright line is in field of murky black and white. It is okay to stop a murder, but not to stop a?? I cannot become the world's policeman, but at times, I have no choice knowing that not stopping any given atrocity will keep it on my conscience- the only one in the world I can't control.
I am so alone because I have no self control.